Don't judge a book by it's cover

The past few days I've been continually doing research on which realm I'd like to start the guild on.  And while I've had some success in narrowing it down, I've also come to the conclusion that there will be idiots on any server I start on.  What I consider as idiotic behavior varies from immature character names, bashing each other in trade chat, ignorant and/or improper use of words like "gay" and "fag" (for example; calling other people "fag" or referring to something stupid as "That's so gay," and intentionally causing drama on either forums or in trade chat.  These things infuriate me, but I realize that there is no getting away from it in the game.

Everyone is human and it sometimes takes longer for some people to mature than others.  Apart from that, people grow up in various different situations; causing the influence of certain beliefs, etc. on sections of the population.  I, personally, am someone who grew up and was raised in a community that inadvertently taunt their children to hate others because they were sinful or not chosen by god.  While I grew up that way, I'm a much different person now.  I've changed a great deal in the last 10-15 years.  So I do realize that everyone deserves a chance to change.  I can't be too harsh on realms in general because of the behavior of a few people.  With that in mind, I'll return to the main subject.   

To review, my four main choices were Blackhand-US, Cairne-US, Ysera-US, and Ravenholdt-US.  I've narrowed it down to Blackhand-US and Ravenholdt-US.  I've spent some time on both servers via trail account the last few days and have also observed the behavior on the official realm forums.  Ravenholdt seemed like the more mature and best choice out of the two.  When I was on there today, however, I saw some negative things.  I saw someone who chose the name "Dick" for their character and someone else who had "Anusol" as their character name (in case you don't know, Anusol is similar to Preparation H).

There was also a discussion about the show Jersey Shore which was basically bickering over who liked it and others who either hated it or didn't want to hear about it.  Now, I don't watch the show and don't really care about it, but that's not the point.  The point was how the conversation was started and carried out.  It seemed like the person starting the discussion simply wanted to start a pissing fight.  It actually reminded me of fights I used to have with my brothers that basically sounded like this: "You're a [insert insulting name]," "I know you are but what am I?"  I ended up finding similar things on the Blackhand forums.  This was both disappointing and it left me wondering if I would actually find a realm that didn't have this sort of behavior.

The answer is no.  Every realm will have something I don't like on it.  Every realm will have people that won't like me.  I need to approach the realms like everyone has to approach life; there will be people who don't like you and the vise-versa, but you can't let that discourage you.  Everyone is different and instead of being discouraged by that, we need to embrace it.  So, with that being said, I'm not going to judge the realms too harshly when it comes to what I may perceive as idiocy.

Before I continue I just want to make sure those reading this aren't thinking I'm some sort of stuck up snobbish type.  I'm actually pretty easygoing and flexible.  I know I make mistakes and am far from perfect.  I know there will never be a perfect guild and I'm not aiming for the perfect guild.  I just want to have fun.  (Cyndi Lauper anyone?)  I think I'm going to take the rest of the week to decide which of the two I want to pick.  In the meantime, I'm also going to be looking into other guilds on both servers to try and see if they could be possible allies and I'm also going to be looking into voice chat programs that are used for WoW.  Stay tuned.